I don’t know how to say this to you any other way so I’m just going to say it: There is no easy way to heal from psychological trauma.
There is no pill, no elixir, no magic wand, no therapist, no book, no workshop, no yoga class, no blogger that will give you a quick fix from your suffering. I’m sorry; I truly am.
If you want to heal from PTSD you are going to have to work very hard for a long time. You are going to have to spend money (probably a lot of money relative to your income) to get help to overcome what you feel should have never happened to you. And then you will have to work some more.
In my book I compare the journey of healing PTSD to the journey that Frodo takes in The Lord of the Rings trilogy to cast the evil, all powerful ring back into it’s source: a dangerous volcano hidden inside of an even more dangerous enemy territory governed by an all seeing magical evil sorcerer. Frodo has two choices. He can either stay in his comfort zone in the bucolic shire of his childhood and live in denial until his land is ultimately overrun with evil mutant elves and destroyed while the ring has corrupted him (or someone else) completely. Or, he can man up and take the journey, one that is most perilous and with no guarantee of success and try to destroy the thing forever.
This is basically our choice as well. Is the journey so easy? If it were, everyone would make it.
Yes, I know it sucks. But suck it up folks. That is the way it is. I can only say this to you, not because I am cruel and heartless, but because this is a journey that I’ve taken. I’ve done the dirt time, so to speak, in spades.
It is totally worth it. The sooner you get over resistance to healing and begin, the better. Healing PTSD takes a chunk of your life. Not healing from PTSD takes your entire life (and possibly future lifetimes if you believe in that sort of thing).
Take a moment and review the pros and cons of healing:
Peace of mind Nightmares and flashbacks for the rest of your life, chronic anxiety
The ability to love and be loved Failed relationships; people who are afraid of you; persistent loneliness
Bodily health Heart disease, migraines, joint pain, digestive issues, diseases
Wisdom Ignorance, bitterness, confusion
Compassion for self and others Self-pity, entitlement, self-loathing, shame
Money well spent in healing Money ill spent in addictions, diversions and distractions
Well, you get the picture.
So which will it be? Healing PTSD does have an endpoint. It brings gifts beyond compare but only if you finish the job. You have no more time to lose. Put this at the top of your New Year’s Resolutions and you will ring in a much brighter 2014.
Blessings on your journey of healing!
Endurance is the most difficult of all the disciplines but it is to the one who endures that the final victory comes. ~ Buddha
Tags: buddha, compassion, healing, love, money, PTSD, resistance, Susan Pease Banitt, The Trauma Tool Kit